I was once asked why I do so much for the females in my life. I was asked why I choose to give my undivided attention to the many females who go in and out of my life. Am I scared of commitment, afraid of being hurt. After a long search for the answers to these questions I came to this conclusion:
I am who I am for a reason. I love women for who they are and not for what they offer me. I am man who sees the beauty in the women around him. I find the perfection in the women who see nothing but imperfection within themselves. I am the safety blanket I am man should be to a woman. I strive to make sure the women in my life smile and have happiness, even for a brief moment.
I am not afraid of commitment. I commit myself to the women in my life everyday that I wake up with the mind set that I will not be the man to hurt a women and leave broken. I love every woman that opens themselves up to me to show me the hurting person hiding behind the image of a strong and unhurt woman.
I listen to the stories that haunt the women I have grown to love. They have taught me that love comes in many ways and forms. Love and sex may mingle but they don't have to exist together. I aim to please as a man should. Instead of looking for his nut and his nut alone.
I do for the women in my life because the men around them refuse to. I sacrifice myself to know that I made a woman smile. I made a difference in her life. Although it may have been in passing or over years in time, I know I can say that I helped her through her troubled past. I was there when no one else saw her tears behind the smile. We all have a purpose. Mine is to uplift the women who cross paths with me, to make a women feels she deserves more then what is set before her. I set the highest standards for myself in hopes that females aim for a man better then me.
I am a man hurt by a women scorned. I am a man who carries the stories of the women hurt by the men they loved. I am imperfect.
I do the things I do not to avoid a relationship. I do it to forge new ones with the women who need a man not interested in one thing.
I am the man who is everything his father wasn't and everything is mother wanted me to be.
-Boy Wonder growing up a day at a Time...
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Brooklyn Talk: The Opposite Sex
I have lived my life always seeing things through the eyes of both a man and a female. I have tried to be very Subjective to my thoughts in order to be a better man and better understand the on goings of a female's intellect. Last night, I had a very long talk with a few of my frat brothers and it hit me, many guys out there have no clue as to what to do with their life, girl and emotions. So i felt that I had to share a few thoughts with my fellow half of the species as well shed some light on the inner workings of a man's brain for the ladies.
TO THE MEN:
First and foremost, Communication is Key. Set rules off the bat. This the down fall of ALL Men who don't announce their intentions. Just because you think she knows how you feel doesn't mean she actually knows what you are thinking. The difference between men and women are women NEED Titles in order to justify their actions. This is why females always ask if you have a 'girl that you are talking to' or 'Am I just another girl you are trying to have sex with?' If you are sleeping with a female and spending time with her, you may think you are just friends with sex on the side but she most likely thinks you are her next man. She will want the label of your girlfriend. When this happens, she will expect more from you. So if you don't want to end up one day with her stuff in your dresser, SAY SOMETHING.
Second, Leading females on to sex and leaving, not the best choice in the world. I have learned that the world is a small place and females talk. So be honest. If you think she is hot and you would love to bed her, let her know that is where you see it leading and no further. If she isn't with it, chalk it up as a loss and keep it moving. We are out numbered by females 4 to 1; There is plenty to pick from. If you don't know where you want it to go, say so. Females may say they know everything but if you do not put your word in, they will do it for you in their mind and set goals for what THEY want.
If a female isn't interested, she wouldn't deal with you; if she deals with you, chances are she is interested. She will always show signs that she may not be aware of. body gestures such as twirling her hair, smiling when she looks at you, turning her face when you look at her for long periods of time. AT THIS POINT it is your job to calm her nerves and make her feel comfortable. This DOES NOT mean you should try and make a sexual Move. If you play your cards right, she will do that by herself.
Something I learned at the age of 7 which has helped me Greatly with women. Learn to LISTEN! What she rambles about may not interest you but just put that time in and pay attention to her gestures, the words she uses and the looks she makes as she describes things. Just because she says something DOES NOT mean she is telling you the truth. her body language and tone of voice will always tell you what you need to know. Details like this are important to keeping a woman interested. She may give you a chance but if you drop the ball, you will be left holding yourself with your pants down and confused as to why you are alone.
TO WOMEN:
The words to you are simple. Men need three things: Food, entertainment and sex. Yes, its that simple. We try to act like it but we cant read minds. You tell us you hate doing things or something is wrong, we will try to fix it. Its what we do. So just remember a few simple rules.
1) Stroke our ego. You appease us, we are going to melt. No matter how thug the man. If you cater to his ego, there is no limit you cant reach.
2)SPEAK UP! We can not read minds. If you want something, you want to advance the relationship, slow it down, try something, don't hint at it, SAY IT! Otherwise we are blind and in the dark.
3)Be Patient. We are only human. No man is perfect no matter how many qualities he has on your check list. If you know you want something from him, put the time in and don't expect him to know what you want from him off top.
If you didnt know, Now you know
-Boy wonder off yet again
TO THE MEN:
First and foremost, Communication is Key. Set rules off the bat. This the down fall of ALL Men who don't announce their intentions. Just because you think she knows how you feel doesn't mean she actually knows what you are thinking. The difference between men and women are women NEED Titles in order to justify their actions. This is why females always ask if you have a 'girl that you are talking to' or 'Am I just another girl you are trying to have sex with?' If you are sleeping with a female and spending time with her, you may think you are just friends with sex on the side but she most likely thinks you are her next man. She will want the label of your girlfriend. When this happens, she will expect more from you. So if you don't want to end up one day with her stuff in your dresser, SAY SOMETHING.
Second, Leading females on to sex and leaving, not the best choice in the world. I have learned that the world is a small place and females talk. So be honest. If you think she is hot and you would love to bed her, let her know that is where you see it leading and no further. If she isn't with it, chalk it up as a loss and keep it moving. We are out numbered by females 4 to 1; There is plenty to pick from. If you don't know where you want it to go, say so. Females may say they know everything but if you do not put your word in, they will do it for you in their mind and set goals for what THEY want.
If a female isn't interested, she wouldn't deal with you; if she deals with you, chances are she is interested. She will always show signs that she may not be aware of. body gestures such as twirling her hair, smiling when she looks at you, turning her face when you look at her for long periods of time. AT THIS POINT it is your job to calm her nerves and make her feel comfortable. This DOES NOT mean you should try and make a sexual Move. If you play your cards right, she will do that by herself.
Something I learned at the age of 7 which has helped me Greatly with women. Learn to LISTEN! What she rambles about may not interest you but just put that time in and pay attention to her gestures, the words she uses and the looks she makes as she describes things. Just because she says something DOES NOT mean she is telling you the truth. her body language and tone of voice will always tell you what you need to know. Details like this are important to keeping a woman interested. She may give you a chance but if you drop the ball, you will be left holding yourself with your pants down and confused as to why you are alone.
TO WOMEN:
The words to you are simple. Men need three things: Food, entertainment and sex. Yes, its that simple. We try to act like it but we cant read minds. You tell us you hate doing things or something is wrong, we will try to fix it. Its what we do. So just remember a few simple rules.
1) Stroke our ego. You appease us, we are going to melt. No matter how thug the man. If you cater to his ego, there is no limit you cant reach.
2)SPEAK UP! We can not read minds. If you want something, you want to advance the relationship, slow it down, try something, don't hint at it, SAY IT! Otherwise we are blind and in the dark.
3)Be Patient. We are only human. No man is perfect no matter how many qualities he has on your check list. If you know you want something from him, put the time in and don't expect him to know what you want from him off top.
If you didnt know, Now you know
-Boy wonder off yet again
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